"At the beginning of man, nature is good." As Confucius said, no one is born a bad person. Everyone grows from an ignorant child, so of course no one is born a thief. I don’t know if you guys who are reading this article have the experience of stealing things when you were young? You don't have to feel ashamed, because many people have had this experience when they were young. And there are many reasons for the psychology of stealing, which does not mean that the kid who steals is a bad kid. The key point we are going to discuss today is how to deal with it correctly if parents discover that their children are stealing things.
I believe that the first reaction of many parents is to "hit , Tell the child so muchIt’s useless.” Our parents always feel that it’s useless for children to teach verbally. Only when a stick hits the child will they remember the lesson. But such a severe education method will only cause physical and psychological harm to the child. It hurts them for a lifetime! Parents who do this may not understand their children at all. Have you ever paid attention to your children’s reasons for doing this after your children made mistakes? Was it for stealing or because the children themselves thought they were taking ownership Things? Behind the children's mistakes, our parents need to be patient to find the reasons, otherwise it will only treat the symptoms and not the root cause.
First of all, parents should not make the hierarchy between themselves and their children too obvious, and don’t question them in the manner of interrogating prisoners, This will only make the child more afraid to tell the truth, in exchange for the child’s lying or silence. Parents must be patient to communicate with their children, walk into their psychological world, and then guide the children step-by-step, find the specific reasons and then prescribe the right medicine.
And don’t directly label your child as a “bad boy”, this will hurt your child’s self-confidence and self-esteem, make the child rebellious, or cause the child to have a deep sense of guilt and change the character Introverted. This kind of thing about children's mistakes, if parents want to teach their children, they must also remember not to blame the children in front of outsiders, find the right time and educate them in the right way.
Of course childSince the child has already stolen something, the parent cannot answer ambiguously with the child about the nature of the child’s stealing, but must clearly tell the child that this behavior is wrong and the chain that will be caused by the stealing. Response, such as the owner will be very anxious. Then teach them what to do if they find something "single". Let them distinguish between what can be taken and what can’t be taken away at will. For example, things in public areas cannot be taken at will. They must first ask the adults around them. OK, and if you find something, you can't attribute it to yourself but give it to an adult.
It is important to let children understand the importance of morality, but Parents must set an example first, thisIn this way, it will be more convincing in the process of educating children, and children will gradually develop good moral habits. For example, some parents like to be greedy for petty and cheap, take things back from the unit and still be proud of their children; in public, they cannot abide by public order and good customs, etc., these will only give children wrong information, so that parents can not only convince their children Lessons, children will be more upright and confident to "do evil for wrong".
If a child asks the parents if they have stolen something, they should tell them that the act of stealing is bad, but it does not mean that they are bad children. And also use the correct handling method mentioned above, because every outstanding child needs your heart to irrigate.