Parents are very important to their children's education when they are young, and it may even affect the children's life. Many parents do not distinguish between rewards and punishments in their children's education. They always use the child's return as an excuse to help their children excuse their responsibility.
Actually, parents’ actions like this can cause a lot to their children The influence of the child’s mistakes in a child’s childhood will have serious consequences.
The consequences are as follows:
Parents always want to take good care of their children when they are young, and don't want their children to be hurt at all. But if one day this love turns into indulgence, the consequences will be disastrous.
After a child makes a mistake, the parents always favor the child's behavior, using the child's still young as an excuse to excuse the child from responsibility. If things go on like this, children will easily become selfish, self-centered, do not know how to consider others, make mistakes and are unwilling to admit their own mistakes, leading to big mistakes in society in the future.
2No sense of responsibility
Parents blindly favor their children, so that the children do not need to be responsible for their own mistakes, so that the children will give birth in later life.I feel that my actions are correct, and I don’t want to listen to other people’s advice.
Parents’ hints are also invisibly telling children that no matter what they do, they don’t need to be responsible for their words and deeds. This will make the children feel arrogant, and do whatever they want in the future. , Unable to cultivate their sense of responsibility.
3 relying on parents
parents Always help children wipe their butts when they are young, and use the child's return as an excuse to make the child feel that he is backed up, and it is easy to develop a child's mind that is not afraid of fear. If things go on like this, in the future life of the child, no matter what the child does, he will instinctively rely on his parents.Rely on parents to solve their problems, and rely on their parents to help solve mistakes.
Such children will find it difficult to gain a foothold in society, they will not have the courage to face difficulties themselves, and they will not learn to take the initiative to take responsibility.
From the above, we know that when a child makes a mistake, Parents should give their children the correct education, and should not always use their children as a shield. The education of children should be cultivated from an early age, cultivate children's sense of responsibility, cultivate children's independent ability, cultivate children's courage to face difficulties, and more importantly, let children understand right and wrong.
So when a child makes a mistake, how should parents educate their child?
After a child makes a mistake, parents cannot be emotional, they should Think rationally. At the same time, parents should understand the reasons for their children's mistakes and help children distinguish right from wrong. If it is the fault of the other party, then the child should be persuaded to put himself in the shoes of others and learn to be tolerant;
If it is the child’s own problem, the parent should not be partial, but should reason with the child and tell the child what he did wrong And let the children learn to be responsible for their actions, say sorry to others seriously, and compensate them for their losses. Only in this way can children slowly establish the correct concept of right and wrong and slowly correct their wrong behaviors.
ParentsLead by example
As children grow up, parents should give Children set a good example, tell them to behave in the world with their own words and deeds, and let them understand that no matter who they are, everyone should be responsible for their words and deeds. Parents are the best teachers, and children will learn carefully from their parents, so parents should strictly demand their own words and deeds and give their children family edification invisibly.
Parents do not need to avoid their mistakes in front of their children. Instead, they should be generous to let their children know that they will also make mistakes, and successfully correct their mistakes in front of their children and give them a correct example . In this way, in later life, the child will not see that he has made a mistake the first timeThink about avoiding, but learn to face it bravely.
Don’t beat or scold
China After a child makes a mistake, it is easy for parents to make a common mistake, namely, beating and scolding the child. But this approach is not right. This will not allow the child to correct his mistakes very well. On the contrary, it will trigger the child's inner rebellious psychology and make the child further away from the right path.
On the contrary, after a child makes a mistake, parents should contain their anger, calmly explain to the child the point of the mistake, and teach the child how to recognize his mistakes and correct his mistakes. Only by this kind of education can children fully understand their mistakes and successfully correct their mistakes.
Many parents are very concerned about educating children I have a headache, I don’t know how to raise children scientifically, I don’t know how to teach my children, let alone how to correct my children’s mistakes. In fact, educating children is very simple and cannot be educated in the same way. Parents should make progress with their children in the process of educating their children. Do not spoil the children, do not indulge children, and treat children making mistakes strictly.