Chinese people have been concerned about fortune since ancient times, and the modern answer to fortune is more like a general overview of the pattern of life. In layman's terms, people associate their fortune with fortune.
From a certain perspective, luck is not only a probability, it is more like the materialization of our own internal cultivation and external performance, that is, individual behavior will also affect a person’s fortune Specifically, psychologists believe that when a person has the following four signs, it is usually the beginning of his bad luck.
I. Escape from reality
The Japanese writer Hideko Yamashita believes that people tend to Hope is pinned on the unknown tomorrow and ignore the present. Reality is often not good. For many people, reality represents busy work and bad life. When we are immersed in fantasy, we can feel the beauty of life, but This is ultimately a kind of self-anaesthesia.
The American social psychologist Leon Festinger (Leon Festinger) in his famous theory "Social Comparison" believes that people will always compare themselves with themselves. Comparing excellent people, we will also compare ourselves with people who are worse than ourselves to determine our own value.
When we evade reality, we also lose the confidence and enthusiasm for life, which makes us notFa positively treats one's own life, and cannot objectively recognize the value of oneself in society. A person who cannot correctly understand his position is naturally unhappy in his life and work, and feels that he is often in bad luck.
2. Negative attitude
Ancient Facial expressions and facial features are usually used to predict a person’s fortune. Generally speaking, those with a sad faceRong people are generally unlucky.
From a psychological point of view, a negative attitude to life means that many aspects will be affected, including interpersonal relationships, individual emotional performance, and individual perceptions of changes in things, etc., which will change a person’s luck.
The famous historical allusion "Wangmei Quzhike" in a great sense mobilized the positive emotions of the soldiers, so that they would not be affected by the negative mood. Only if they have hope in their hearts can they go on. The influence of the individual is huge, and objective facts are often something we cannot decide, but we can decide how we can solve problems more reasonably.
3. Being harsh on people around you
People who can be strict with themselves can often achieve great results, but being harsh on people around them will often be squeezed out. Here we are talking about It’s how we can have more reasonable interpersonal relationships with the people around us.
Human beings are a very social species. In today’s society, we are rarely able to complete some social activities independently. Relationships are extremely important here. Some people like to demand high standards of colleagues or friends around them.
In a very large sense, this is confining their social circle and causing them to Not when in troublePeople can help, they often attribute this situation to their own bad luck, but in fact, they should learn to compare their hearts to their hearts.
4. Refusing to change
Refusing to change In the eyes of many people, it is a more conservative and safer attitude towards life, because change requires courage and more effort. But in today’s fast-paced society, standing still meansBehind, no one can live a lifetime in any position.
After being replaced, many people blindly complain about others and feel that they are unlucky and that their lives are not good, but in fact, their greed for ease makes us unable to recognize the changes around us. Change means challenges, but also opportunities. Only by conforming to the trend of the times can we be regarded as mastering our own destiny.
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