Text| Xing Yunjie (senior maternal and child nurse, owns the copyright of this article, welcome to share)
The second-born mother, it sounds like a complete and happy mother Role, but the number of bitter tears behind it may only be clear to me...
Sudden death of a young second-born mother
Xiao Rui is only 25 years old and is already the mother of two children, originally at this age It is the watershed for a woman to move from young to mature. There is still a lot of time to enjoy in the future, but unfortunately she can't see it...
Xiao Rui is a child who grew up in a single-parent family. She yearned for the warmth of the family since she was a child. When she first reached the legal age to obtain the certificate, she couldn't help but follow her boyfriend to get the certificate. Only later did I know the so-called marriage, but it was a trivial matter of firewood, rice, oil, salt and some bits and pieces.
The two often quarreled over some trivial matters, especially after the first child, Xiaorui and her husband. A pair of young rookie parents seemed to be in a hurry. Her husband was as unqualified as a child. Xiao Rui was really tired of taking the child alone. In the end, her in-laws couldn’t stand it and offered to help with it. 3 years later, Xiao Rui Is pregnant with a second child, although this childIt was outside the plan, but she couldn't bear to get rid of it, so she chose to be born.
After Er Bao was born, her in-laws were not in good health. Energetic came and waited, but my husband was not at home. Every day after work, he would only play games at home. No one was waiting during confinement. Xiao Rui resisted the pain and followed Erbao to breastfeed, change diapers, take a bath... but just did it. Okay, I heard the big oneBao cried and called her mother. Xiao Rui was overwhelmed by the two-headed blow. Once she couldn't bear to smash her husband's mobile phone, and in exchange for a bad curse.
That night, Xiaorui went to bed with all the grievances, and never woke up again. According to the doctor's diagnosis, Xiao Rui herself was not in good health. She was found to have irregular heartbeats during physical examinations. As a result, she had to bring two children to one person. She was overworked and died suddenly.
Go online and search for "two-child mothers". Maybe you can also find many similar cases. Many people think that "it’s not just bringing a child." How tired is this child? The sudden death of the second mother mentioned above may also be a wake-up call, which nakedly reveals the sadness behind the second mother.
Behind the second-born mother, I have to suffer from the sadness
1. Taking care of the child’s sadness
The picture above is a timetable for breastfeeding a child from a well-known Chinese actor Zhang Xinyi. Just breastfeeding is a step that has so many things to worry about, not to mention changing diapers and coaxing. Sleeping, etc., behind some seemingly trivial things, it's not easier to do than going to work. Moreover, this is just one child. If there are two children, even if the mother becomes a superman, it is probably difficult to take care of both children at the same time.
2, the sadness of the body getting worse
The picture above is Ella’s Mother’s Day At that time, she sighed that it was not easy to become a mother. After giving birth, the prolapse of the uterus and bladder caused her to suffer from urinary incontinence, which required slow exercise to recover, and there was no cure. In fact, we can already see from the above that fertility does affect women’s health to some extent.Kang made an impact.
Pregnancy and childbirth itself is a "resource battle" between the fetus and the mother. Because of pregnancy, the mother may become out of shape, hormone disorder in the body, and emotional breakdown , You can’t eat or sleep well for ten months, do you think it will end after birth? No, there is still a long way to go to repair after childbirth. Mothers who give birth have to worry about postpartum lateral cut wounds, fear of uterine bladder prolapse, fear of urine leakage, and fear of being rejected by their husbands while enjoying the joy of fish and water. Mothers who had a C-section were afraid of uterine scars.
One childbirth may cause irreversible damage to the mother’s body, not to mention two times. The second child mother is really not that easy.
3. Heartbreak without assistance
This should be the most helpless thing for second-born mothers. When the first child is born, the whole family will be surprised, expected, and curious, so they tend to pay more attention to it Some, willing to helpBusy with the baby, and when the second one was born, the freshness was gone. From pregnancy to the birth of the baby, the reaction of the whole family was particularly flat.
And everyone around them thinks that second-born mothers have already experienced many battles and have some experience, so they don’t care much in many ways. In addition, most Chinese men , Is another shopkeeper, relying on mother alone, wanting to bring two children, both physically and psychologically torment.
In any case, please learn to cherish yourself, and please also participate in parenting tasks in time to help share the burden of your wives. The family can be more long-term happy. (Lyj)