We rely on the beautiful imagination of future life to support ourselves through every moment. A person’s general belief is that our current efforts will gradually accumulate and gain in the future. The more we pay, the more rewarding we will be. For example, if I eat less every day and exercise more every day, I may form a better figure in the future. For example, I look at him more every day., Smile at him once a day, contact him once a day or even say a word, hoping that the emotional investment in a person will eventually reap the reward of love in the future.
"It will add up to something." It is this kind of imagination/fantasy that drives us and bridges the gap between the present and the future Sex.
In our society today, the fantasy about a good life is too single:
First of all, when all people pursue the same kind of beauty When imagining life, they ignore the uniqueness of each person-so that even when they really have this kind of life, they may suddenly find that they are not happy in this kind of life. It’s not the happiness I want. British writer Wilde once said with infinite emotion: “There are two great tragedies in life: one is not getting what you want, and the other is getting what you want. ”
Secondly, when all people pursue Extreme but certain living conditions inevitably lead to fierce competition. More and more people realize that they may not be able to realize the blueprint for a good life-at this time, they have lost the blueprint that can make them feel convinced. Imagine that there is a gap that is difficult to bridge between the future and the present.
When there is no longer a "will eventually arrive somewhere" Fantasy drives the life in front of us. What keeps us moving forward? Responsibility? Obligation? Suffering and pain?
More importantly, when people are no longer convinced by the single vision of a good life, and at the same time they dare not deviate/defect, they do not have enough ability and confidence to deal with the subsequent conflicts and embarrassment. ——This is cruel optimism.
This society does not give people other ways out, even though I feel that the blueprint for a better life may notIt is true, and people do not dare to completely give up the effort to approach there at the moment, dare not deviate from the tradition, lest they lose the possibility of happiness in advance.
For example, a woman whose husband has cheated and dare not divorce even though she is no longer Believe that this marriage can add up to a better life, she also dare not lose her marriage in middle age and becomeThe only marginal person accommodated in the blueprint for a good life in society, Lu Xun once said that Nora Nora who had left "or there are really only two ways: either fall or return. Because if it is a bird, the cage is not free. And as soon as you get out of the cage door, there are eagles, cats, and other things outside; if you have been closed to paralyze your wings and forget to fly, there is indeed no way to go. Another one is starving to death. , But starving to death has left life, and it doesn’t matter, so it’s not a way.
The most painful thing in life is that there is no way to wake up from a dream You can go. The dreamer is happy; if you don’t see the way to go, the most important thing is not to wake him up."
"People should make sincere efforts to imagine other forms of relationships and values, to identify with the'now', not some future The value of possibility. People should find more happiness categories. This society should no longer think that wealth, prosperity, accumulation, and relatives are the basis of survival. We need to find more options for a good life-for this reason people no longer fear losing ‘must have something’ because you can choose. ”
Each of us has the right to become a complete person, to release the nature of our life and explore freely Be your own way and live to the fullest.