In today's society, interpersonal communication is extremely important, but do you really understand its rules? Not necessarily, for more people, interpersonal communication is a distressing thing. They want to escape it, but find that they can't escape.
So what are the rules in interpersonal communication?
First, know how to communicate with courtesy
"Communicate with courtesy" is the most basic rule of interpersonal communication. If every time you go to dinner with your friends, you are a stubborn master, do you think the popularity will be good? It may be fine once or twice, but in the long run, it is estimated that the circle of friends will become less and less.
I don’t think you should deal with someone who only knows how to take advantage and doesn’t know how to deal with courtesy.
Of course, in interpersonal communication, it's not about who will buy a few meals and who should give as many gifts. But people shouldYou should be grateful and understand that a person treats him well, not others' blind efforts.
No matter what kind of relationship, the two people in the relationship are like a balance. Only when you come and I will be in balancestatus. When one party asks too much and doesn't know the return, then the relationship must be broken.
So, don't be a person who only knows how to ask, but doesn't know how to be grateful, because this is breaking the balance of interpersonal relationships.
Second, you must remember that the money is in fact
The phrase "money in the money sees character" is unreasonable, and some are even broken because of money in the money. Relationship.
A friend told me that he went to a friend’s wedding a few years ago, and his money was 600 yuan, but when he got married, his friend’s money was only 200 yuan. He was very annoyed.
Perhaps he had forgotten, or he was deliberately fooling around. As everyone knows, the 200 yuan money has exposed his character. Regardless of the reason, we shouldn't take others more points. We can only pay more gifts but not less. This is the rule of life.
Thirdly, don’t go over your partner and get too close to his same-sex friends
This can be regarded as interpersonal Big taboos in communication.
The most impressive thing is Qu Xiaoyan in "Ode to Joy". Maybe out of good intentions, he wanted to test his friend's boyfriend, but basically no one made him feel in love, and even teared his face in the end.
Fourth, don’t want your friends to complain
Many times we find someone to talk to, we will think of friends, but don’t be walking garbage, just meet people When your trash can.
It is not easy for everyone in life. Learn to control your emotions instead of venting your emotions at will.
In that case, it will only make your circle of friends misty, and your friends will get farther and farther away from you.
Fifth, don’t interfere with other people’s privacy
"The trouble comes from the mouth "The lessons of thousands of years are also the biggest disaster in interpersonal communication.
We must remember not to spread rumors or spread rumors, and do not treat the privacy of friends as after-dinner conversations, spreading wantonly, such disloyal friends There will only be less and less friends.
Human behavior is invisibleIt becomes your brand. Therefore, not inquiring, not interfering, or spreading the privacy of friends in interpersonal communication is to respect others and protect yourself.
Sixth, close gentlemen, distant villains
We will meet all kinds of people, first of all you have Judge whether the opponent is a villain or a gentleman. If it is a villain, he would rather suffer a temporary loss than care about it, because the villain calculates people by unscrupulous means.
We often see all kinds of news, all for an inconspicuous little thing. In the end, Liangcheng is a tragedy, and finally we reflect too much It's not worth it.
Remember: Respecting gentlemen is virtuous, and being afraid of villains is not incompetent.
Seventh, don't talk full, don't do everything >
Many people tend to be full of words when they are overwhelmed. They just look at the present, not the future, and finally slap themselves in the face.
Everything in this world is changing, and you may become a laughing stock in the future.
Don’t be too mad, low-key is to protect yourself. Don’t overspeak too much, but also leave a way out for yourself.
The old saying goes:Self-cultivation is the best in the world, and self-cultivation ranks first, because only when people have cultivated well can things go smoothly.
These 7 rules help everyone to cultivate themselves. From then on Don’t worry about interpersonal relationships anymore.
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