Recently, a reader left me a message saying: Uncle Jock, I think I’m human I am already very easy-going. I have no opinion on what to eat or play with my friends. Even to accommodate their time, I often break my original plan, but why they disrespect me more and more? Ask me for adviceDecided.
I replied to her: Girl, if you are so accommodating to others, who will accommodate you? You are not a pair of white shoes, why are you so versatile?
Many of us have been educated since childhood. Don’t be too self-centered, but be easy-going , Know how to accommodate others, thisIn this way, I can get along well with everyone. Uncle Jock feels that being a person cannot be too self-centered, let alone others.
What do you eat when someone asks you? You obviously want to eat lighter Japanese food, but you are afraid that your ideas are not in line with the other’s wishes, and you always answer Yes, in the end, the other party decides to eat a more heavy-tasting hot pot. You are accommodating others, but you have wronged yourself.
None of us is a pair of little white shoes, there is no need to live so versatile, to accommodate this and to cooperate with that, sometimes, we still have to be picky a little.
There is a kind of personality called the pleasing personality. This kind of person yearns for the love or good relationship of others, is willing to accommodate others, and Others are foremost, but often ignore yourself.
Zhu Wushuang in "Wulin Gaiden" is a typical all-match good person, her mantra in the play" "Leave me here" reflects this. She always unconsciously cooperates with all kinds of people. In order to please others, no matter what she should do or not, she will actively ask to do it. Even with Xiao Guo When the talents competed for talents, she obviously liked the talents, but wanted to deliberately lose to Xiao Guo. This may be happier for other people, but she herself suffers.
Many people often do this, hoping to be recognized by everyone, afraid of confrontation and conflict with others, knowing the other’s suggestions, It’s what I don’t like, but because of various reasons I can’t refuse it, making myself physically and mentally exhausted.
I once committed similar actions during a trip. Wrong. I stillWhile studying, a person transits in Hong Kong. I wanted to take this opportunity to take a good stroll, but I was entangled by the children next to me, and finally went to the maternity store with their mother and child for a few hours. Then I think about it, the kids don't actually like me much, they just want me to play with him because they feel bored. I was embarrassed to refuse, and wasted my hard-earned tour opportunity.
In fact, many times, we don’t have to be so versatile, and we don’t have to cooperate with everyone we know and don’t know. Even friends and relatives, we have to accommodate each other. This time you accommodate me, next time I accommodate you, and It’s not that one person is always accommodating and paying.
Time and opportunity are limited for everyone. We can be more critical, yes If you really don’t like things, just reject them decisively. There is no need to spend too much time and effort to deal with people you don’t like.
not just with peopleWhen getting along, we have to be picky about the meal, the utensil, and the things we can’t live without. I have a friend who is a food expert who said it well: You can count how much food you eat in your life, and you can’t let garbage take up your stomach.
Writer Fu Seoul once shared in "Wonderful Flowers Conference"Her story is that in a restaurant, she asked for beef in tomato sauce, but the noodles served did not contain tomato juice. Only a few cherry tomatoes were floated. The reason was that cherry tomatoes were also tomatoes.
For many people, I’m afraid they will only take a picture silently.
But Fu Seoul could not accept: "Cherry tomatoes are fruits, and tomatoes are vegetables. Don’t bully the penman who doesn’t understand agriculture." It seems similar, but the taste But it was exactly the same, so I made a bet with the store, depending on whether the cherry tomatoes could be "seen red" with chopsticks. As you can imagine, the store finally changed her bowl of noodles.
Food is the same, and utensils are the same. Some old friends may know that I am a very picky person about living things. I always feel that whether it’s a lamp or a bowl, An object that does not go well will really greatly reduce the quality of happiness in life.
You can bear with a lamp that is too dim, and a hot bowl. Bear it, it's not them that decorate you in the endInstead, you are coordinating and accommodating these daily necessities.
Don’t let yourself be so versatile because you’re afraid of trouble. Whether it’s food or utensils, follow your own heart to be more critical, so that you can Live more comfortably.
There is a travel agency’s copywriting, which is very well written , It says:
Travel is an art of distribution of life! A rare life, you should spend 10 days on the border between Switzerland and France, leaning against the glaze mood of Lake Anneng in the Alps Falling asleep; should be separated into 10 days in Prague, enjoy the bohemian debauchery during the day, choose a long-dreamed identity at night, and secretly participate in a costume ball that has been passed down from the Middle Ages to the present.
Yes, The so-called life is just a kind of time allocation Art, we should put ourWhat kind of people and things did you spend your rare life on? Is it the delicate and delicious, or the rough, improvised? Do you do good things with the people you like, or do you live your life as a supporting role in others' lives?
I think that those who live a good and worthy life are probably spending their time on worthy people and things.
There is a saying in the movie "Late Night Gas Station Meets Su Ge": How do we spend the day , Just how to spend a lifetime. At the end of the day, you adapt to your friend's schedule and go shopping with her; you can't bear to argue with the store after eating a portion of salt and more fried rice; returning to the house with a dark lamp, you feel it will be over.
You think you are very easygoing, but in fact you are just wasting a rare life.
For every individual, who is not a small official? Why do you have to be so versatile all the time, to cooperate with others? It is the first time to be a human being, each of us deserves to enjoy the best and think about it most Life.
Some people say that a sign of maturity is that a person’s appearance can become more and more easy-going, but he must be more and more critical in his heart.strong>Yes, you can accommodate occasionally, but don’t always be soTake, a lifetime is so short, don't waste time on things that are not worthwhile.
What have you missed by accommodating others ?
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