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Women all hope that the family they enter can have a reasonable mother-in-law. The mother-in-law doesn't care about nostalgia, knows how to understand and tolerate, invisibly will make women look forward to marriage more, and they will have more confidence in running a family.
On the contrary, mother-in-law is arrogant and does not like to listen to other people's ideas and suggestions. Without a good communication foundation, it will be very difficult for mother-in-law to get along. Things in the family are not something that one side can change by concession, but that both sides need to tolerate and retreat.
Xiaolan doesn't want to tolerate her mother-in-law anymore, because her mother-in-law has done too much to her daughter!
Before Xiaolan and Zhong Shuo got married, they never thought that their mother-in-law would favor sons over daughters. Because the mother-in-law is very kind to the sister-in-law, but when Xiaolan married in, the mother-in-law made it clear that she wanted Xiaolan to have a son.
Xiaolan hates her mother-in-law's two-way standard.
Xiaolan is pregnant, she gave birth to a daughter, and her mother-in-law's unhappy performance is written on her face. After the confinement, the mother-in-law urged Xiaolan to have a second child and have a son.
"Mom, it is not my decision to give birth to daughters and sons. Now the age is different, men and women are as good as men!"
"How can men and women be the same? If you marry our family, you must have a son Come out, or I will let my son divorce you.”
Xiaolan suddenly realized that her mother-in-law was not understanding, stubborn, and old-minded when it came to giving birth.
My sister-in-law also gave birth to a child and is a son. The mother-in-law often went to my sister-in-law's house to see the children and buy a lot of things for the children, which contrasted with her own daughter. Xiaolan was very wronged.
Actually, many women don’t expect their parents-in-law to treat themselves or their children. They can do what they love to their children. However, women all hope that the mother-in-law can be more reasonable and fair, and at least do her mother-in-law's obligations and provide some help within her capacity.
Xiaolan feels that after the second child, his body is too hard, and will increase the financial burden of the family, planning to wait for her daughter to go to kindergarten and have a second child.
In the past few years, the mother-in-law’s eccentric Xiaolan has been seen in her eyes, but Xiaolan has no complaints. Xiaolan will comfort herself every time, "My own child pets."
Daughter has gone to kindergarten Now, Xiaolan is also more relaxed. When she is busy with work for a while, she plans to go out with the family and spend more time with her children.
Zhong Shuo gets off work late, and every time he comes back, it takes more than 7 o'clock. Xiaolan has to work overtime until this point recently, which is about a month. Xiaolan asked her mother-in-law to help. During this time, she picked up her daughter from school and took the baby for a few hours. Her mother-in-law reluctantly agreed.
One afternoon, when Xiao Lan was in a meeting, she received a call from the kindergarten teacher, saying that her daughter had a fever of 39 degrees and it was best to send the child to the hospital for examination. Xiao Lan was in a hurry.
Because she couldn't ask for leave temporarily, Xiaolan called her mother-in-law and asked her to take her daughter to the hospital.
In the family, everyone must play their own role. Mother-in-law should be free to help take care of the children, and it is also right for the couple to share the housework. Only when everyone performs their duties and works hard with my small or large family can interpersonal relationships remain harmonious for a long time.
When it was almost 5 o'clock in the afternoon, Xiaolan received a call from the kindergarten teacher saying that the child's mother-in-law had not come.
Xiaolan hurried to the kindergarten and took her daughter to the hospital. When she called her mother-in-law, Xiaolan learned that she had forgotten about it, but was playing with her sister-in-law and son in the mall. Xiaolan said angrily: "My daughter has a high fever, but you play with someone else's son! Mom, you Can you be fair to my daughter?”
The mother-in-law was also angry at Xiaolan’s attitude and said: “That can only be blamed on you for not having a son.”
小蓝 was crying in the hospital with her daughter in her arms. She made up her mind at this time, don't even think about the second child, she won't give birth. If it is a daughter again, the mother-in-law will treat herself more excessively, and if she has a son, the daughter will be treated unfairly again.
Xiaolan is also ready. If her husband insists on wanting a son, she will divorce.
Back home, Xiaolan asked her husband.
Husband said: "Wife, I listen to you, leave my mother alone, the child is born to us, not her."
Many couples are bothered by the second child, maybe they both I haven't figured out whether it is necessary or not, but at the urging of both parents, it is necessary. However, in the face of people with patriarchal thinking, the couple must have a common view of parenting. If the two children are born with "inequality", it is better not to torture the children.
It is a big matter for women to give birth, but many women are not giving birth to themselves. Such a woman, when there is a crisis in her marriage or when she feels that her marriage life is exhausted, her child will become a "oil bottle".
A woman has to live for herself, even if you marry the other's family, it doesn't mean you have to lose your original life. Living in the way of others, you will never be happy.
A real good man will respect the wishes of a woman, and will not force a woman to have children, or how much money he makes, or who he wants to be. Respect between husband and wife is the prerequisite for happiness.
When a man gives respect, care and care to a woman, the woman will naturally manage the family better. A woman can't always let herself be in a disadvantaged position, she must have her own assertiveness and chicness.
The core point of this story is: If the mother-in-law favors sons, the daughter-in-law must have three countermeasures and don't get confused.
1. Don't expect mother-in-law to treat women preferentially.
Since she is a patriarch, like a hopeless old feudal society, can you change her? You can’t, and her son can’t change her. In that case, don’t expect things that can’t be changed, right?
2. Don't let mother-in-law look after children.
Since mother-in-law prefers sons over daughters, it is best not to let her take the children no matter you have children. Because patriarchs will spoil their grandsons too much, and they will be too mean to their granddaughters. Whether they are spoiling or mean, they will spoil a child. You can't let your child be spoiled just to save trouble, right?
3. Keep a distance with your mother-in-law.
Since the mother-in-law prefers sons and daughters, and since her behavior will make you sad, and even point fingers at your life, all you have to do is to keep a distance with such a mother-in-law, try to keep a distance, and not live in the same Under the eaves. As long as the young couple work together, they will be able to live their lives well.
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