When family love conflicts with dreams, "Dream Traveling" teaches children to make choices.
"Dream Travels" tells about the young boy MiG who loves music and the down-and-out musician Hector A story of a bizarre adventure begins in a colorful and mysterious world.
In 2018, the film won the 90th Oscar Award for Best Animated Feature Film; a total of 780,624 people rated on Douban, with a score of 9.0, of which the 5-star rating was 60.6%; The freshness of Rotten Tomatoes on foreign film rating websites is 96%; the global box office exceeds 800 million US dollars. It is also a high-quality animated film produced by Pixar Studios with a double-buzz at the box office.
I went to the cinema to watch the movie when it was released, and several scenes were very touching during the movie, making me a big man cry like a child in the movie (manually cover his face). whenBut the wife sitting next to me also wiped tears from time to time. At that time, my daughter was too young and didn't take her to the cinema to watch a movie when she was just over two years old. Now that my daughter is over four years old, I watched the movie with her the day before yesterday, and I was deeply moved.
The story takes place in Mexico. The protagonist is born in a family of shoemakers The little boy MiG, coincides with the Mexican traditional festival of the Dead,MiG’s idol is the god of song Dracus, and MiG wants to participate in the Day of the Dead talent contest. However, due to the relationship between the great-great-grandfather and the great-great-grandmother, it is forbidden to talk about music in MiG’s home. If you want to continue to pursue your music dream, you will lose the warmth of your family.
The time to choose one of the two has arrived, and MiG made the decision to dream, not family.
The dilemma faced by MiG I believe many people have encountered it, and you are no different.
How many parents have painstakingly written a life script for their children, polished them carefully, verified them in many ways, and took care of all the props needed for the success of the performance, waiting for the children to put on their masks and play Performing his script, waiting for his parents to give him warm applause in the audience.
I will give you my blessings, you will never touch Music.
This is the blessing that MiG met when he met his great-great-grandmother in the world of the undead. .
How comfortable it looksPrivate blessing, because I don’t have music in the script I wrote for you, so you must play your role in life according to the script I wrote for you. Any performance that exceeds the script will not be recognized and will be ruthless Abandoned.
There is a character named Zhu Lusha in the hot TV series "Take Dad to Study Abroad". The love she gets in her native family is extremely controlled love. She has to bear the future of the whole family. Her parents Every piece of love given to her was secretly priced, but the price was very expensive, too expensive to bear, and finally went astray.
Looking back to see ourselves, is our love for children also conditional? Behind the hope that the child will become a dragon and the hope that the daughter will become a phoenix, are the parents passing on their unfulfilled ideals and wishes to their children? If so, how tired and helpless the child is physically and mentally under such a lot of pressure.
Countless families have the following situation: children have their own independent ideas, and this When the concept is different or even contrary to one's own, no matter whether it is right or wrong, you must intervene arbitrarily, "You are not allowed to do this, you are not allowed to be like that"; children are getting older and more independent, and their parents' control ability is getting weaker and weaker. I am also willing to understand the child’s spiritual world. This interference gradually degenerates into "WeIt’s also good for you".
At the end of 2017, there were intensive incidents of elementary and middle school students jumping off buildings due to unbearable academic pressure.
Incident 1, September 7th Nanjing first grade three students jumped from the building September 18th Wuxi first grade three female students fell from the building
Event 2, September 14 A boy from Hanzhong No. 1 High School fell from a building
Incident 3, at 2 o'clock in the morning on September 14, a student from Chenggu No. 1 Middle School fell from the fifth floor of a student apartment building and died<>
Event 4. A 10-year-old boy from Hefei fell from a building on September 16th
Incident 6, a student in Zhanjiang on September 18 High school students jumped from a building
Incident 7, September 18th, Wuxi first grade three girls fell from a building
incident 8. On September 20th, a deaf-mute student in Anhui wanted to jump off the building
What a shocking title. Behind these tragedies, how many children still endure silently, wearing masks as written by their parents The script is playing a role I don't like.
I will give you my blessings, you will never allow Forget that we are a family.
In "Dream Quest" , the day when the misunderstanding is always resolved, after sufficient After communication, great-great-grandmother understood her husbandWhy didn't he return to me back then? It turned out that he was poisoned by a friend and couldn't come back.
The great-great-grandmother gave the blessing to MiG, but it still has conditions. We must not forget that we are a family.
In getting along with people, more than 80% of the conflicts are caused by poor communication, either not communicating or unable to communicate.
Parents like to look at everything their children do from an adult’s perspective, and use adult language to communicate with their children, forgetting that children’s cognitive, understanding, and expression skills are limited.
Children’s and adults’ worlds are different. Children may be very interested in things that seem sparse and common to adults. In fact, children are very interested in everything they haven’t touched before. Innate curiosity drives children to seek knowledge and keep asking questions. childTo understand the world by asking questions, to experience and feel the world by using taste, touch, hearing and vision. Children need to keep trying, to try and make mistakes to grow.
During the growth of your child, do you have enough patience, are you willing to let go of your own standards to communicate with your child, and use an equal status rather than a parent’s status to understand this little Life, feel the energy of this life.
I send my blessings to you without any conditions. True love has no conditions.blockquote>
The plot of "Dream Travels" developed to the end. After many challenges and setbacks, the MiG family finally defeated Dracus, and MiG also had the opportunity to accept the blessing of his great-great-grandmother and return to his family . This time’s blessing, without any conditions.
True love is unconditional.
The best I have heard about love One sentence is: Love is what he shows, not what I want.
If you want your child to be himself, you must give him something, which isfree. Only by giving him freedom can he become himself, otherwise the child will always live in the script you wrote for him, and cannot become the master of his own life script. If you don't like the feeling of being controlled, please don't control your children.
My daughter is now over four years old. Whenever she plays a game with her, she likes to do one thing in the beginning, which is to set the rules of the game. She will tell me very seriously about the rules of the game, and make sure that I understand the rules of the game before I can play the game. Even when playing simple games like rock-paper-scissors is no exception.
I am willing to accompany my daughter every time, after listening to her talk about the rules of the game, most of the time I am willing to abide by the rules set by her. In fact, sometimes the rules are unreasonable and I will discuss with my daughter. Reset the rules until both people agree to follow it.
BecauseI know that the child's power is limited. In real life, she can't do too many things with a sense of control. She is not so free yet. Through the game, the child can gain a sense of control, especially the rules of the game set by herself. When the father is willing to abide by, she will build up self-confidence and know that differences and conflicts can be resolved through communication between people. .
Some people say: People have to die three times in their lifetime.
The first time, when your heartbeat stops, you are biologically declared dead;
Second Second, when you were buried, people were wearing black clothes to attend your funeral. They declared that you no longer exist in this society and that you disappeared from the network of relationships;
Three deaths are the last person in the world who remembers you. If you forget you, you will truly die. The entire universe will no longer be related to you.
"Dream Quest" is about family relationships, stories about dreams.
When family love conflicts with dreams, use love to understand each other, respect everyone’s dreams, and use family warmth to illuminate everyone’s heart and let everyone All of the hearts are free enough.